Apologizing is an important part of any language, and in Korean, there are several ways to say "sorry" depending on the level of formality and the situation. Understanding the differences between ๋ฏธ์ํด, ๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค, ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค, and ์ฃ์กํด์ will help you use the right expression in different contexts.
1. ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค (joesonghamnida) – The Most Formal "Sorry"
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Politeness Level: Very formal (์กด๋๋ง)
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When to Use: In professional settings, with elders, or when making a serious apology
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Literal Meaning: "I feel guilty."
์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค is the most polite way to say "I'm sorry." It is commonly used in workplaces, customer service situations, or when you need to apologize to someone you respect.
Examples:
- ์ค์ํด์ ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค.
(I’m sorry for my mistake.) - ๋ฆ์ด์ ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค.
(I’m sorry for being late.)
If you are unsure which form of "sorry" to use, ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค is the safest choice in formal situations.
2. ์ฃ์กํด์ (joesonghaeyo) – Polite but Less Formal
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Politeness Level: Polite (์กด๋๋ง) but softer than ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค
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When to Use: With acquaintances, colleagues, or in polite but casual situations
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Literal Meaning: "I feel guilty."
์ฃ์กํด์ is slightly less formal than ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค but still respectful. It is suitable when speaking to people who are older than you but in a less strict environment.
Examples:
- ์ค์ํ์ด์. ์ฃ์กํด์.
(I made a mistake. I’m sorry.) - ๊ฐ์๊ธฐ ๋ชป ๊ฐ๊ฒ ๋ผ์ ์ฃ์กํด์.
(I’m sorry I can’t go suddenly.)
Although grammatically correct, ์ฃ์กํด์ is less commonly used than ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค. Most people stick to ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค in polite speech.
3. ๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค (mianhamnida) – Formal but Softer Than ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค
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Politeness Level: Formal (์กด๋๋ง)
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When to Use: In polite situations, but less serious than ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค
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Literal Meaning: "I feel sorry."
๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค is another polite way to say "I'm sorry," but it is considered slightly less serious than ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค. It is often used in work settings, but if the situation is very serious, ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค is preferred.
Examples:
- ๋ฐฉํดํด์ ๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค.
(I’m sorry for disturbing you.) - ์ฐฉ๊ฐํด์ ๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค.
(I’m sorry for the misunderstanding.)
If you want to be very polite but not overly formal, ๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค is a good option.
4. ๋ฏธ์ํด์ (mianhaeyo) – Polite Yet Friendly
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Politeness Level: Polite (์กด๋๋ง) but softer than ๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค
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When to Use: With acquaintances, friends, or colleagues in a warm but respectful way
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Literal Meaning: "I feel sorry."
๋ฏธ์ํด์ is a polite but friendly way to say "sorry." It is appropriate for situations where you want to be respectful but also casual.
Examples:
- ๋ฆ์ด์ ๋ฏธ์ํด์!
(I’m sorry for being late!) - ๊น๋นก ์์์ด์. ๋ฏธ์ํด์!
(I forgot! I’m sorry!)
This form is often used between friends who still maintain some level of politeness.
5. ๋ฏธ์ํด (mianhae) – The Casual "Sorry"
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Politeness Level: Informal (๋ฐ๋ง)
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When to Use: With close friends, younger people, or in very casual settings
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Literal Meaning: "I feel sorry."
๋ฏธ์ํด is the casual way to say "sorry" and is commonly used among friends, siblings, or people of the same age. Since it’s ๋ฐ๋ง (informal speech), avoid using it with elders or in professional settings.
Examples:
- ๋ฆ์ด์ ๋ฏธ์ํด!
(Sorry for being late!) - ๋ชฐ๋์ด, ๋ฏธ์ํด.
(I didn’t know, sorry.)
Using ๋ฏธ์ํด with someone who expects politeness might sound rude, so use it carefully.
6. ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค vs. ๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค – What’s the Difference?
Expression | Politeness Level | Who to Use It With? | Seriousness |
์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค | Very formal | Elders, teachers, strangers, business settings | More serious |
์ฃ์กํด์ | Polite | Acquaintances, polite conversations | Less serious |
๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค | Formal but softer | Elders, formal settings | Medium seriousness |
๋ฏธ์ํด์ | Casual polite | Friends, colleagues, polite but warm situations | Less serious |
๋ฏธ์ํด | Informal | Close friends, younger people | Least serious |
If you are in doubt, ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค is the safest and most respectful choice!
7. Other Ways to Express an Apology in Korean
โ ์ ๋ง ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค. → "I’m truly sorry." (Very formal)
โ ์ง์ฌ์ผ๋ก ๋ฏธ์ํด์. → "I’m sincerely sorry." (Polite)
โ ์ฉ์ํด ์ฃผ์ธ์. → "Please forgive me." (Formal)
โ ์๋ชปํ์ด์. → "I was wrong." (Polite)
โ ๋ฏธ์, ๋ด ์๋ชป์ด์ผ. → "Sorry, my bad." (Casual)
8. Final Thoughts
Now you know how to say "sorry" in Korean depending on the situation and the level of formality.
- Use ์ฃ์กํฉ๋๋ค in professional and formal settings.
- Use ๋ฏธ์ํฉ๋๋ค in polite situations but with less seriousness.
- Use ๋ฏธ์ํด์ in friendly yet respectful conversations.
- Use ๋ฏธ์ํด only with close friends.
By choosing the right form, you’ll sound more natural and respectful when apologizing in Korean!